“We all know that ‘We all possess knowledge.’
But knowledge puffs up while love builds up.” 1 Corinthians 8:1
My first child is a good sleeper. I read a sleep training book when he was born and got him sleeping through the night pretty early in his first year. He napped through preschool and is still easy to put to bed at night. It gave me a bit of confidence in this whole parenting thing. I looked at other mothers whose babies weren’t sleeping or napping and thought why don’t they just read the book, why don’t they have more of a routine? Then, God laughed and gave me my youngest child. She is carefree, wild, and would rather be jumping on a bed than sleeping in one. She has broken all the rules (I have had to open the sleep book several times for this one). We’ve let her sleep in our bed, skip naps, and stay up late.
It’s funny how sometimes even when you have the knowledge and experience of something, like sleep training a child, you gain this sense of power to determine if others are right or wrong in that area. My knowledge of sleep training “puffed” me up and consequently burst once I had my daughter. I’m sure I ill-advised some moms out there with my patronizing knowledge of sleep training. Oh, how things have changed. I’m learning to respond to all things with a bit more love and grace. I will never know all the experiences that lead any person to decide what to eat, how to vote, who to love, or how they would encourage a child to sleep. I try to listen more and talk less. Love more and patronize less. Some of the translations of this passage from Corinthians say love edifies. I love this image, because I picture the edification of a brick building, with each brick being laid as someone shows another person love and kindness. I hope and pray that I’m helping to build skyscrapers of love in everyone I meet!